If you are thinking about bringing a sex doll into your home for the very first time, How to use a sex doll is what you typically would expect from the time you choose them, to the day they arrive in your home.
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What to Expect on Sex Doll Arrival Day?
Weeks, even perhaps months ago, you began your journey. Browsing endless sex doll online websites, looking over potentially thousands of pages and photos looking for the right sex doll. Perhaps you found a few who were the top candidates, and you began conversations back and forth with different vendors about specifications and customization options.
Then came the day when you found the ‘one’.
Maybe you were suddenly filled with overwhelming emotions, maybe you weren’t. It is possible that you originally intended for your sex doll to be just that: a masturbation device, but upon seeing them, they suddenly were so much more, and it caught you off guard. It happens and it is completely normal and okay.
It was on that day that you selected all the available customized options for she that you desired, entered in your shipping and billing information, and submitted your order. Next you eagerly anticipated the confirmation email which stated that your order has been accepted and that it has been sent to the factory. That means your sex doll has entered the production queue!
Your place in the production queue and the customization options played key factors in how fast or slow your sex doll remained in production. Hopefully during this wait time, as you searched for tasks to prepare for your sex doll’s arrival, you did your research on The Doll Forum and put together what is called an ‘Sex Doll Cleaning And Maintenance Essentials Kit’. This kit is a necessary tool in routine sex doll care and maintenance. I will describe later what should be in this kit.
The day finally arrived, and a lot of doll lovers out there consider this day their sex dolls actual ‘birthday’, as it is the day your sex doll has completed production and factory photos are sent to you for your final approval, or for you to request tweaks or changes to customizations to have them looking exactly the way you want them to. If they are good to go, then the next step is their journey home. If not, then there will be added production time to make any necessary changes and another set of factory photos before shipping.
It can be anywhere from a week, to several months from the date you place your order, to the day you receive your tracking number. This depends on which sex doll manufacturer you chose, the length of the production queue and your place in the queue, the extent of customizations selected and your final approval before shipping. However, now you have the eagerly anticipated tracking number! Now what? Well, more waiting, that’s what!
Your Sex Doll Has Arrived!
After days, perhaps a week of continuously hitting the refresh button and tracking your sex doll’s journey from factory to home, the morning has arrived in which they have been expected to be delivered! Surely your anticipation levels are at an all-time high, if not, that’s okay. Have you taken the day off work, or will they be delivered to a local shipping store for you to pick up after work?
Sometimes, one only has to wait a couple of hours, where others will spend their entire day pacing and looking out the window each time a vehicle with a diesel engine passes, hoping it is the delivery truck containing their beloved sex doll. Finally, the delivery truck with your new sex doll stops in front of your home and you watch the driver get out of the driver’s seat and head to the back of the truck where the cargo bay is. They open the door and seem to struggle with moving the long shipping box to the end of the truck, where they stand it upright on a moving dolly before striding up to your front door.
Wiping the sweat from their brow and panting, they may ask you, “Hey man, what’s in the box?”, to which you may outright say what it really is, or perhaps you have thought of an alibi? You sign the electronic scan device, and the shipping box is placed on your front porch, or doorstep and the delivery driver departs to complete other deliveries.
If you have a dolly of your own, you scoot one end of the box onto the flat part of the dolly and wheel it into your home. If not, scooting the box into the house and to the designated unpacking location may take a few extra minutes and hard work.
Sex Doll Cleaning And Maintenance Kit
If you have not put together your ‘essentials kit’, I highly suggest doing that now, whether your brand-new sex doll arrives or not and you are going to need that kit on the first day, before you do anything else with them.
What is an ‘Sex Doll Cleaning And Maintenance Essentials Kit’ and what is in it?
The ‘essentials kit’ is consisted of necessary items that you will need to regularly clean, maintain and repair your sex doll with. Over time, your sex doll will become dirty, especially after sex, they will need makeup and eyelashes replaced and any potential damages that happen to all sex dolls, repaired.
The ‘essentials kit’ primarily consists of:
- Baby powder or Cornstarch
- Baby oil or Mineral oil
- Large powder brush
- Spray or Spritz bottle
- Anti-bacterial hand soap
- Soft neutral colored bath sponge, or wash cloth, and bath towel
- Plastic waterproof shower curtain liner
- Cotton Swab
- TPE glue (for TPE dolls only!), 3M 94 Primer paste (another excellent alternative to TPE glue)
- Sili-poxy, or Permatex RTV Clear Silicone Adhesive (for Silicone dolls only!)
- Large bucket
- Long tampons, drying stick or aquarium pump and tubing
Some other items you may want to add are:
- False eyelashes
- Fake fingernails / toenails
- Super glue (to adhere eyelashes, fingernails, and toenails)
- Makeup brushes
- Makeup palettes for eyeshadow and blush
- Lipstick / lip gloss
- Wig detangling brush / comb
- Heat gun / hot knife (for TPE repairs)
- Unscented body lotion / body cream (for creased areas, such as under arms, under breasts, groin areas, behind knees)
Keep in mind, that the other items are mere suggestions, however the primary items are strongly recommended to help you keep your sex doll in the best condition possible, so that they will last longer. Remember: Your sex doll is an investment, and you want to treat them well and take excellent care of them, just like you would your home, car, or other investment.
Unboxing Sex Doll
Now your sex doll has arrived! Do you lay the box flat on the floor, or perhaps a sofa? Or do you take the shipping box directly to the bedroom, placing it gently on the bed? Now to find something to cut the shipping tape very carefully, perhaps a kitchen knife or a box cutter.
The tape is now cut along the lid, and you open the box to reveal a foam lined box, the head in a fabric drawstring bag and a cool foam eye mask protecting the eyes. There may or may not be a light-colored blanket over the body of your new sex doll, which is wrapped in clear plastic. You can see that their hands and feet are protected by thin foam sheets taped at the wrist and ankles, over the tops of the feet and mid-forearm.
All seems good as you continue to explore all that has arrived with your new sex doll. There is another fabric drawstring bag filled with accessories: a disposable douche, a package of condoms, a bottle of lubricant, bolts, screws, and hooks to suspend your doll from the hanger rod of your closet for discreet storage and additional neck bolts should they need to be replaced. Then, perhaps if you have chosen a female doll with the vaginal insert option, that would also be included in yet another fabric drawstring bag.
Your new sex doll is finally home, but before you get down to business, there are key tasks that must be done.
Getting Sex Doll Out For Inspection
How To Lift Your Sex Doll Safely?
You look down at the box and wonder to yourself, “How on earth do I get him/her out?” If this is your very first sex doll and you are not used to the weight, this can be a bit daunting. But have no fear, there is a good way to get them out of the box and onto the bed safely.
First, you will want to slightly lift the legs so that you can begin to pull the clear plastic wrap over the body up to the base of the buttocks. This will give you access to be able to gently bend the legs at the hips so that your sex doll will be at a ninety-degree angle.
To bend the legs at the hips, you will want to do this one at a time and take it very easy. Place one hand firmly above one leg, just above where the leg joins the torso, placing your other hand under the thigh and pushing upward on the back of the thigh until the leg is positioned as desired. Repeat the process with the other leg until both legs are in the desired position for sitting.
Next you are going to want to slightly pull your doll into a semi-sitting position. The best way to do this is to place one arm under both thighs and take the other hand, gently placing it at the base of the neck, slightly above the shoulder blades and tilt your sex doll forward.
When they are forward enough, with your arm still under the thighs, take your other arm and place it behind her back, over the shoulder blades, gripping the arm farthest from you with your hand and pulling her to your chest and lift slowly, steadying your legs to bear the weight and keeping your back straight.
Here I would like to introduce you the Sex Doll Carrying Mat, a specialized solution designed for the effortless lifting and transportation of your sex doll. This mat is compatible with a variety of flat surfaces, including the Storage Couch/Sofa, Storage Case, Lightweight Storage Bag, beds, and carpets, provided the doll is laid flat.
Begin inspection of Sex Doll
Gently place your sex doll on the surface next to the shipping box, removing the clear plastic bag from the body and begin your initial inspection of the body. You are going to want to look for the following:
- Do the arms, legs, shoulders, wrists, hands, ankles, and neck move well? Are they so stiff you cannot move them, or are they so loose that they cannot hold a pose?
- Are there any tears or abrasions on the skin? Look on the hands, bottoms of the feet, tops of the knees, under the breasts, anal/vaginal/penis areas.
- If your doll has come with the wire finger option, are there any broken wires (you will be able to tell as the fingers will move in an awkward way and will be significantly loose).
- Are there any finger wires poking through the tips of the fingers or any toe wires poking through the tops of the big toes?
What you are looking for is any potential damage that may have occurred during the shipping process.
*IMPORTANT* If you suspect or find any damage, photograph the damage, take notes, place the doll back into the clear plastic bag and box with all accessories, closing the box and contact your vendor immediately!
However, if no damage is found on either the body, head, or genital attachments, you may move onto the next step which is the absolutely necessary first cleaning.
Sex Doll Cleaning Bath
This is where your essentials kit comes into play for the very first time and will come into play each time you have sex with your sex doll or any time they become dirty for any reason. Also, keep in mind that some people are able to bathe their sex dolls in the shower, but let it be known that while you may submerge a silicone sex doll into water, do not ever do this for a TPE sex doll. TPE is a porous material, and it will absorb water, risking not just mold, but also a rusted skeleton that will inevitably break down before its time.
The way I will explain the first bath is more along the lines of a sponge bath. This method will require the plastic waterproof shower curtain liner either laid over the bed, or a sturdy, long rectangular table. Lying your sex doll on their back, without the head, you can begin the bathing process.
Two popular methods used regularly by fellow doll lovers are:
- A 1:5 ratio mixture of anti-bacterial hand soap and lukewarm water in one spray bottle, with the other filled with cool water to spritz over the body of the sex doll for washing and rinsing.
- A bucket filled with a mixture of anti-bacterial hand soap and lukewarm water for the washing, then the dirty water dumped out, bucket rinsed out and then refilled with cool water for rinsing.
Before you start the bath, you want to make sure that the metal standing foot bolts (mostly on TPE dolls) and the threaded bolt inside the neck are completely covered, so that no water will become trapped inside the sex doll. This can be achieved by stuffing small pieces of paper towel in between the bolts and the TPE, or by covering the area with plastic bags. Using either the washcloth or the bath sponge, start in sections on the front of the body, beginning at the neck and working down to the bottoms of the feet. When the entire front of the body is clean, rinse thoroughly with a fresh washcloth and sponge, or with the spray bottle. You will need to dry the entire front side of the body before turning it over and repeating the cleansing, rinsing, and drying process on the back side of the body.
Using Sex Doll Cleaning Kit to clean the vaginal cavity of a sex doll ensures that any lubricants and bodily fluids are properly flushed out.
Once the entire body is cleaned, remove the plastic waterproof shower curtain liner, and replace with a towel, preferably a neutral/light color to avoid stains on the TPE. Now you will lay your sex doll back down and powder the entire body from neck to feet on both sides, dusting off any excess powder. It is advisable to lightly dust with a powder puff and then dust with a large powder brush. You will not need to re-oil a TPE sex doll at this point, as it should still have plenty of oil in the TPE from production.
If your sex doll is made of silicone, powdering is not always necessary, as silicone tends to be smoother than TPE. TPE is naturally a tacky substance and not only does regular powdering keep the skin feeling soft and smooth, but it also helps reduce the risk of micro tears should it grab hold to clothing while being dressed/undressed or your skin when you are moving them around.
There are some who prefer to bathe their sex dolls while sitting on a sex doll bath chair, standing on a slip-resistant bathmat, or suspended from a hanging hook in the shower. The same basic guidelines apply, with some slight differences. Instead of a soap and water mixture in a spray bottle or bucket, simply apply the anti-bacterial hand soap directly to a wet sponge or wash cloth, lathering the body and then rinsing with the shower head. Definitely take the necessary precautions to not only make sure the sex doll is secure in the tub or shower, but also to make sure that the metal neck and standing foot bolts are well protected.
*IMPORTANT* Be careful when lifting your sex doll into the tub and shower when dry, but even more-so when wet, as this is when injuries to both the sex doll and people occur unnecessarily. Also use a back brace for added support and less risk of back injury when lifting or moving the sex doll.
They are bathed, now what?
By this point, with all the lifting, moving, inspecting, and bathing of your sex doll for the first time, your body is probably very sore. Your muscles are not used to this kind of exercise, and it has been one hell of a workout. Most new sex doll lovers choose to wait until the next day or so for the first sex, being content in cuddling or snuggling with their new love after a true labor of love.
However, there are some whose sexual excitement is still very high and even after all the hard work, they finally get to enjoy what they have been waiting for all this time. If you happen to be one of these types of persons, just remember one very important thing: you will need to clean your sex doll’s orifices that you interacted with after sex. Leaving sex/bodily fluids and lubricants inside the orifices can cause buildup of bacteria which is never good, so after-sex clean-up is always a must.
You will need to utilize the disposable douche that came with your sex doll’s accessories, plus an absorbent tampon, or an aquarium pump with tubing to thoroughly clean and dry out the orifices. Once the orifices are sufficiently clean and dried, simply re-powder until you are ready for the next sex session.
Bring Sex Doll to your life
Your sex doll has arrived, has been cleaned, dried and re-powdered, and maybe even you had enough energy after all that hard work to engage in some much-anticipated sex. Today is merely the first day of a wonderful life with your new sex doll and I hope it was more enjoyable than exhausting for you. In time, your body will become accustomed to their weight and moving them around will become easier.
Having sex with your sex doll. Don’t overdo it though, as it will set you back and that is not a frustration that anyone wants when they are adjusting to life with a new sex doll. As with anything in life, don’t rush through it; relax and enjoy the journey as much as possible.
Your writing is very informative to a beginner and a reminder of what women have to go through thank you for the information
So I’ve just purchased (first time) a sex doll for my husband (and maybe me…we will see). My question is, how do you get past the awkwardness of participating in this activity? He really wants me to be a part of it and I really want to, but it seems so “off”.
This is a great tutorial for people new to owning a doll but also gives lots of insight and lots of other useful doll info on how to take care of your doll, even for people that already own a couple dolls or have owned dolls for a few years. Well done ^^
Well written, very informative. Thanks
You’re welcome, Patrick.